Online dating is for losers?

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Jake asks. "Bonny, I get that you see me online deals, save time, and people can not get out of my head hit outside my social circle that online dating is only for losers want, and if I meet someone great. for sure? "

I paraphrased the question, Jake, because he shared their concerns with me face to face, and ask, why me this question all the time. So we are, why and how this question before answering as best you can immerse.

Many singles are afraid a variety of things to set the line: stalked see someone they know, is paired with a former partner, exposed with a faith, religion, or so his loss of privacy, and so on. These are all points, and I've known personally and each and professionally.If all, I have some additional risks beyond the general population; Tell someone you have met online, you can give dating advice to the media leading live with one and see how they will react. I would think this is like when celebrities are using online dating sites reaction.

Although these fears are normal, they are far from the norm. Since statistics are a bit hard to find for some of these concerns, I say again to return to my personal and professional experiences, they are rare. In the list that I found most employees is recognized in the street by a dating profile with my clients and friends, I mean, look at the people, people who know. And that's part of the answer to your question Jake: You are losers of friends, colleagues, family members and relatives? I doubt. They are normal people like you and I, and the search for love, sex, friendship, marriage .. or all of the above.

The idea that online dating is "less than" only for the most likely comes from his formative years in which men found outnumbered girls 50 to 1 and the nerdiest nerds how to use a BBS, Telnet., Or other forms of relatively primitive communication line to mark a day A part of me missing the first few days, just because all pre-tested in one way or other people more intelligent and smart technology valuable resources found online at this time. Now every drunk friends dare a profile, and many do.

Then, of course, we get into a vicious circle: If dating sites are populated by drunken dare makers, why should I participate? It's simple, really. As the bar or a blind date, or the church or at work, people will find with connection, and others just want to avoid. Dating online makes this process much easier! Spend 15-30 minutes per week in research and / or respond to the people, and then you can focus on something else. There are zero "interested" or "I'm too shy to say hello." You can literally smile, say hello, start a conversation, and if they meet with any measure of interest, we can say with confidence: "I'd like a coffee" or any other activity that you enjoy first date.

Now there is another very important point I want to make sure I cover: your attitude. If you think online dating go everyone is a loser, then that's what you find. Many of us who have known some people online talking about this: it is a disgusting experience to get to know someone, only to start interacting in person with something along the lines of "What about you Why What, you meet online? "Another variant is the people who refuse to put up a picture, or people who pick up the profile with the finesse of a starving man.

Not that guy, Jake not be. Instead, focus on what you want, ignore the rest, and get ready to meet someone fantastic.