Are they fooling?

Q: I live with my boyfriend for two years together and have a great relationship normally. Saturday night I hosted a party with some of my friends. Sunday morning came to me and told me that there was a rumor that he slept with someone the night before. He: "No, but my friends tell me otherwise." I think it is because the woman is sleeping with a rumor began before he and I were together, slept together, and since then it has always hated.

But my friend called me and told me exactly what he said he would, and caught this morning fraud he admitted. She said he told him. "Sorry, I messed up"

So today I asked him if he said: "Sorry, I messed up." He says he does not. Now I do not know if I believe I can. The girl who cheated on me with a lie and do anything and say, my friend - I think. But why my friend is back and up to me and tells me he admitted? Or worse, if neither the girl, nor my friend, and he's lying?

My friend was caught cheating with my friends?

A: First, thanks for the question of appointments; even if it is awesome, I get many variations on this theme in my mailbox every day. My boyfriend is cheating? Who should I believe - to live my friends or my friend? - All are valid questions in this difficult situation.

I'm not going to lie in and who does not, because I do not think that's really the problem here. Rather, it is a question of trust, and - unfortunately - Drama. If you do not trust your partner to tell you the truth, then there is a much bigger problem than here, who said what.

They live together, but a night to do their own thing - a great idea. But the fact that her friend came to you and told you * that the rumor was false, * and * Your friends will say anything else?

I've heard countless stories of women whose partner how you came to she had heard a rumor of it. It happens, and that's the best way to deal with this kind of terrible situation. Who wants a story of someone other than the other spouse, no matter how innocent really going that would listen?

Still, I'm confused. Why add on earth your friend on the drama of the situation and tell their friends they went to bed, too? It makes no sense to me at all. If nothing happens, then there would be no drama, and no need to inform them of what you do. Period.

You say you are sitting with her boyfriend and he spoke of the events of the night, so again make no sense. It's the same for your friend. What you need to do is a big step backwards for all, and take some time for yourself. What is your gut tells you? Consider a similar situation already with the same friend (and woman) still produced. How often tolerate hearing the same story, ask yourself the same questions, ask who in your life that you can trust, and you can not?

The answer is in you; I can only suggest that have it on the basis of the limited information available to me you shared. But whatever your final choice, make sure that there is a change in your relationship - if expectations differ between the two of you, even the rules of engagement, or even the existence of the relationship - so that you never ask, believe what history and what should someone important motivation factors are in your life.

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